Remaining friends with your ex is possible, these two readers are convinced

“Love stories usually end badly” Madmoizelle met two readers who make Rita Mitsouko lie. Léa and Hannah agreed to share a fragment of their love journeyand they explain to us why they chose to stay close to their ex.

This is reminiscent of the story of Adèle, played by Camélia Jordana, the protagonist of the Irrésistible series available from September 20th on the Disney+ platform. Madmoizelle had the opportunity to exclusively watch this six-episode romantic comedy.

If you’re nostalgic for love stories on the small screen with female characters turning their pain into strength and becoming co-workers with their exes like Adèle, you won’t be disappointed. Precisely this type of story is also possible in reality. Try it as a couple with Léa and Hannah.

Two love stories, a beginning and two endings

Before explaining how their love turned into friendship, it is worth explaining how their love began. In Léa’s case, she meets Eric during a birthday party organized in Paris. She lives in Montpellier and accompany a friend. It’s love at first sight. They are both in second grade and, despite the distance, they decide to start a long-distance relationship between Paris and Montpellier.

At the end of high school they decide that this estrangement has lasted long enough. Léa takes her hopes and her baggage, begins her nursing studies in Montpellier and goes to live with Eric. Although they are both students, the rhythms of life are not the same. To continue her nursing studies with a high school diploma, Léa must take additional courses in biology and mathematics.

So that Léa can work more peacefully in the apartment, Eric gets into the habit of going to a bar some afternoons, where he meets Oriane. Despite her, he begins to have feelings for her, but does not try anything for her while he is with Léa. On his part, Léa has no friends or family in the south. Her only point of reference is Eric… This is how arguments start to break out. After two years they decided to separate, as they could no longer live together.

As for Hannah, her love story also begins with love at first sight. He met Louise in 2016 during a concert in Paris, thanks to mutual friends. Then everything happens naturally and very quickly. They get close, then decide to become a couple. After two years, Hannah and Louise moved in together and adopted a second cat. Their relationship lasts three and a half years and Hannah insists that it is by far the most beautiful she has ever experienced.

Everything is going well for this lovely family until Louise decides to separate. For Hannah it was sudden and very painful, especially since they continued to live under the same roof for a year after the breakup. But strangely enough, that’s where the magic happens! Hannah realizes that she prefers their relationship now to the one before.

How to build a friendship with your ex?

Difficult to answer this question. The answer is definitely very strong feelings and respect. When asked “were there certain signs that made you think you would remain friends in the future?” » Léa and Hannah say categorically no! On the one hand because the breakup was sudden for each of them, on the other because this pattern is not normal.

To stay close to your ex you need to face your emotions and accept them. Time calms many things. However, what saved both relationships was external. Remember, Léa moves to Montpellier, her only reference is Eric and her only friends initially are those of her partner… It is thanks to this group of mutual friends that romantic feelings will turn into a friendship romance.

The couple’s friends will do everything to reconcile them. Knowing that the breakup is sweeter for Eric because he has someone else in mind. Their friends, not wanting to take sides either, played the role of real matchmakers. They were forced to see each other regularly, to share moments of life.

For Hannah, it was living together that allowed a certain tranquility.

I wasn’t too sure about friendships between exes, but Louise has clearly reconciled me. She moved into an apartment about ten minutes from my house, voluntarily, so we could continue to see each other and raise our two cats together. She became my best friend, the sister I never had, and the person who knows me best in the world.

Anna

“What is your ex’s place in your life today? »

Louise is present in Hannah’s life at very difficult times and vice versa during their relationship. Today it is a real pillar and not a week goes by without them being seen. By chance they even found themselves working in the same company. Hannah is currently in a relationship and wouldn’t cut ties with Louise for anything in the world. The person who shares her life has to deal with this!

Same story for the second interviewee, Eric recently got married to Oriane and Léa was invited. Furthermore, Léa confides that her grandmother died some time ago and Eric knew her very well. He didn’t hesitate for a second to support her and help her move forward.

We don’t see Eric face to face often out of respect for Oriane, but when I needed him after my grandmother died, he was there. He wrote to me every day. When I graduated he was there too and he really congratulated me. I can’t imagine my life without him. Furthermore, despite the breakup, I remained in Montpellier, I built my life there and he is part of it.

Leah

Sometimes attachment is stronger than anger… And it is with this phrase worthy of a beauty queen that these two stories end happily.

Remember to do what you want with your relationships. Although it is customary to cut ties with your ex, nothing forces you to do so if this person is important, unless this desire is shared.

Regardless of opinions, the important thing is to feel good in your sneakers. Furthermore, the friendship between exes is told in the Irresistible series available on Disney+. Another example of “yes, it’s possible, you don’t have to tear yourself up to move forward”.

For confidentiality reasons some names have been changed.