Would Camille Combal be a father like the others, that is, a soft bulb?

The intention was good, really. Yet, he is so drunk. Rémy and Charlie, two friends who created the Darons.tv Instagram page, invited the presenter Camille Combal, radio and television presenter, new father of a child of less than a year.

We mean the 50-minute program, entitled “3 darons 1 café”. uninhibited, fun and accessible. Rémy and Charlie chat about diapers to change and bottles to give away with the guest, they ask him to go back to childbirth, the first few months, the parents’ tsunami, and to open up, very personally. The intention is commendable, for once let’s hear guys talking about these topics! It’s rare enough to be underlined.

And yet, what is it painful to listen to.

Are the fathers of the new generation better than the previous one?

During these 50 minutes of transmission, Camille Combal, who still speaks important topics, even if he doesn’t necessarily realize it, he gives the impression of being a 14-year-old teenager who has discovered that becoming a father is not the same as adopting a guinea pig.

Camille Combal recounts the beginnings of her parenthood, from pregnancy to childbirth to returning home, and the development of her child. He specifies in passing that he did not want his wife to give birth at home and even rebels this new thing about wanting to give birth in a bathtub “.

And throughout the show, it’s next to the plate. She admits that she doesn’t masturbate or hardly anything at home with her partner and baby because ” it’s an 80-20% homework distribution, all i want is to make my kid laugh “. Camille Combal assumes that she will not succeed, that she will do the minimum. He even believes that he already invests much more than the fathers of the previous generation.

The changing role of the father, but not so much

What is intended to be an uninhibited program about fatherhood is above all quite a number of somewhat lame male justification. Under the guise of humor, it doesn’t help you move forward the essential role of co-parenting.

In the media, we mostly deal with men trying to take an awkward spot on the subject of parenting. And of course it affects them just as much, starting with the education of children in the equal distribution of household tasks in a family. Yet it sucks.

Thanks to her comments on the show, we can clearly see that Camille Combal is not ” His side of work, participate, He does what he’s told, but that’s the way it is. He admits that when he tries to do it himself, his wife is always behind, checking if it’s done right. Boo, mean women who don’t let men do it, it’s all their fault, right?

Instead of complaining, Camille, ask yourself why does she do this? Maybe because if he let you run the mess completely, it would be a disaster? Perhaps being “cold,” as he puts it, is a state of mind he feels in his personal life, but when you have a newborn in the house, it’s rather the organization that takes precedence and who saves the furniture, not the ” we will see how to do it “.

Don’t get organized and go there without taking the initiative, why not, but only if both parents are in the same delirium. It doesn’t work if only one of the two is in that spirit, and it’s the other toasting to keep the ship from sinking, as seems to be the case here. Because otherwise it is the mother who holds the boat (as often).

Get out of the cliché of the “funny” father and the “summarised” mother.

Camille Combal seems so grounded and used to social scheme that distributes roles he doesn’t see where the problem is. Even if his intentions don’t sound bad, they are naïve, unequal and unfair.

This discussion, full of clichés and ready-made phrases that pass well in the mouths of guys like ” women are warriors when they give birth, their body knows what to do and bla-bla-bla are so ingrained in society that they are almost seen as a bingo phrases to check off when it comes to parenting.

It’s a shame, all of this. Dear men and co-parents, next time rather than dedicating a show to parenting, which can really make a difference in a society where it is still and always the woman who pretty much does all the work or almost, really get involved. Get informed, talk around you, do your part and even a little more, why not! Don’t put the coins back in the machine yet, be fathers of 2023. We are not interested in the form, we want the substance.

Father’s role in society: there is still work

Primarily, in this issue, we want to sympathize, when Camille Combal talks about her emotion during the birth, her tiredness in the first months, the love she has for her son. But when you know the reality behind it allwhen we know the difficulties involved in taking care of a child, and we are faced with such disjointed observations, this touching side annihilates the root of the problem.

As long as the men are stuck in a simplistic and simple-minded pattern where they do as best they can in the face of the strong and courageous mother who it succeeds, but who annoys a little too much, we will not move from the musty place where we all have rested buttocks. We can all do better, right? We all have so much to gain, I promise.

Let’s hope that the next guests of this show will raise the bar a bit.