The Bird Theory, a way to figure out how emotionally close you are with your partner, is back on TikTok. Users claim that a simple phrase like “I saw a bird today” can reveal a lot about the state of the relationship.
The gist of the theory is simple: If your partner responds to your little comments and is interested in the details, then they’re really into it. And if he ignores it or ignores it, maybe not everything is going well in the couple. This idea dates back to the research of psychologist John Gottman, who coined the concept of “connection cravings”—small moments of attention that build emotional closeness—in the 1970s.
mindbodygreen writer Arianna Reardon decided to test the theory on her own husband. “I told him, ‘I saw a great bird today.’ He not only asked if there were pigeons, but he also started telling me what kind of birds he liked,” he says. The experiment was successful, but Reardon admits the test didn’t always work perfectly. People are tired, stressed, and it’s unrealistic to expect perfect commitment every minute of life.
Psychologists note that failure of the “bird test” is no reason to panic. Sometimes your partner’s reaction is associated with a bad mood or fatigue. It is better to calmly discuss what bothers you and find new ways to get closer; for example, talking more often about small things or going for a walk together after work.
By the way, we’ve written before about how zoomers are changing the dating industry.
Source: People Talk
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